Üsküdar University NPİSTANBUL Hospital Specialist Clinical Psychologist Dilara Aloğlu made observations and recommendations for couples. Experts, who say that deception should be considered as a broad concept together with the reasons, say that the reasons and the way the event is experienced may vary from person to person. Üsküdar University NPİSTANBUL Hospital Specialist Clinical Psychologist Dilara Aloğlu says that according to some studies, deception is more common in individuals with anxious or avoidant attachment. Therefore, some unhealthy situations behind cheating can be overcome by getting support.” is proposing.
It is important for couples to feel valued and safe.
NPİSTANBUL Hospital Specialist Clinical Psychologist Dilara Aloğlu, who says that relations need healthy communication and nutrition in order to develop and be sustainable, said, “It is important for people to feel valued and safe on each other. Individuals who lose themselves in the rush of daily life and neglect their relationships also have difficulty meeting each other's emotional needs. The fact that the needs that the relationship cannot meet can be taken from the outside, causing someone who shows love and attention to become irresistible and may cause cheating.” she told the reasons for cheating with her words.
Cheating is also closely related to the concept of attachment.
Aloğlu said, “Deception is also closely related to the concept of attachment. From a theoretical point of view, attachment develops depending on the baby's relationship with the caregiver, and this situation maintains its effect in adulthood and is transferred from generation to generation. Therefore, the dynamics in romantic relationships are very effective in determining our tendencies to find solutions to problems and communication skills. According to some studies, cheating is more common in individuals with anxious or avoidant attachment.” used his statements.
The reasons differ in every relationship.
Saying that the tendency of individuals to cheat differs from person to person, Üsküdar University NPİSTANBUL Hospital Specialist Clinical Psychologist Dilara Aloğlu continued with the following words:
“It may be related to not meeting personal needs or attachment styles. Therefore, it can be said that there may be some unhealthy situations behind cheating and this situation can be overcome by getting support. The first step will be to be aware of this situation. A self-aware person will feel ready for support. The therapy process can start when the person feels ready.” said.
Dilara Aloğlu said that a secure attachment should occur in order to ensure a sense of loyalty and sustainability in the relationship, and said, "It is very important to establish healthy communication and for couples to respect each other and understand their needs," and made the following suggestions to prevent cheating in unions:
- Prefer to invest in the relationship rather than investing in the outside world
- Try to discover the novelty with the partner in the relationships that return to the routine.
- Improve your communication skills
- Build shared pleasure spaces
- Take up hobbies and socialize together
- Respect your individual time
- Respect your cultural values and differences,
- Strive to understand and meet your mutual emotional needs