Üsküdar University NPİstanbul Hospital Specialist Clinical Psychologist Dr. Gökçe Vogt shared important information about the effects of neglectful parents on child development. Stating that neglectful parents have low sensitivity towards their children, experts stated that this approach leads to deficiencies in the child's academic, emotional and social skills. Specialist Clinical Psychologist Dr. Gökçe Vogt emphasized that the bond with the parents is very important for the child to form secure bonds in his life, and underlined that the bond established with third parties other than the parents, such as grandmother or caregiver, cannot be sufficient on its own.
They are less sensitive to their children
Specialist Clinical Psychologist Dr. Gokce Vogt; She said that the attitude of parents who do not respond to their child's needs, do not show love and attention to him, are generally indifferent, tend to keep him away from them, do not make any demands from him, and avoid emotional intimacy, is defined as 'negligent' and continued his words as follows:
“These parents have low sensitivity towards their children. Parents with this attitude, which was especially noticeable in the 1960s, fail to respond well to their children's needs, show love and support, set rules, and offer guidance for their behavior. Parents with this attitude are much more concerned with their own lives, while everything else comes before their children. Children need love, attention and encouragement to thrive. So it's not surprising that negligent parenting can have a negative impact on a child."
Emotional deficits occur in the child
Emphasizing that parental neglect leads to deficiencies in the child's academic, emotional and social skills, Dr. Gökçe Vogt said, “One of the biggest disadvantages of neglectful parenting is that children do not develop an emotional bond with their disinterested parents. A lack of love and attention at a young age can lead to low self-esteem or emotional deficiencies in other relationships. Having a neglectful parent can even affect a child's social skills. These children usually tend to harm their surroundings to get attention and have difficulty in showing adaptive behaviors in social situations. It should also be noted that just because a parent is busy with work or other obligations does not mean they are uninterested. Even if a parent has a busy work schedule, if he spends time with his child in his spare time and takes care of him, he cannot be described as 'negligent'.
The bond with parents is very important.
Emphasizing that the bond with the parents is very important for the child to create secure bonds in his life, Dr. Gökçe Vogt said, “Research investigating the impact of mother-child and father-child attachment on children's development shows that secure attachment to at least one parent is a key factor that balances risks for children's development. Nowadays, the number of parents who have to give the task of meeting the needs of their children to a third person, especially because women are more involved in business life, is increasing day by day. "Parents being forced away from their child's care cause them to worry about how it affects their child's development."
Third-person relationship is not enough
Dr. Gökçe Vogt said that as part of a healthy normal development, a child who has a secure bond with a parent can establish close bonds with other important adults in his life and continued his words as follows:
“If the child is able to establish a bond with the person who takes care of him and receives attention and care from him, he will be happier as the number of people he feels loved increases and his development will be positively affected. However, this only applies if the child has a secure relationship with their parents. In other words, the attachment relationship with a third person, such as the grandmother or caregiver, who takes care of the child, is not sufficient on its own and does not replace the attachment relationship with the parents. In other words, the influence of parents on children's development cannot be changed by a caregiver or grandmother. In this sense, the effect on the development of the child's secure relationship with third parties is considered as 'icing on the cake'.”
Parents must be primary caregivers
Emphasizing that neglectful parenting style can leave permanent marks on children and negatively affect their development, Dr. Gökçe Vogt said, “However, it should not be forgotten that this is a situation that can be changed. Parents should be primary caregivers of their children. For this reason, individuals with a negligent parenting style may take the first step by learning about healthy parenting styles, making an effort to spend more time with their children rather than delegating their care to someone else. In addition, a therapist they will receive counseling can help them identify strategies that will help them establish secure and deeper bonds with their families.
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