The narcissistic personality is defined as “a deified and unrealistic sense of self-importance”. Specialist Clinical Psychologist Özgenur Taşkın, who states that everyone can have a narcissistic tendency but should not be confused with a narcissistic personality, states that the narcissistic person is the object of love and they want to be loved and praised. Pointing out that narcissistic people want to keep the other party under pressure and control, Taşkın recommends that people in such a relationship seek support from a mental health professional.
Üsküdar University NPİSTANBUL Brain Hospital Specialist Clinical Psychologist Özgenur Taşkın shared information about narcissistic personality traits.
Feelings of superiority are very intense
Specialist Clinical Psychologist Özgenur Taşkın, who states that narcissistic personality can be defined as a deified and unrealistic sense of self-importance, said, “We can also say that narcissism is the transformation of egocentrism into personality. Sometimes narcissism is obvious from the outside, and sometimes it is not at all. People who are not known from the outside are called covert narcissists. These people have a very strong sense of superiority. When it is said like that, it should not be taken on every person who thinks of superiority.” said.
The love object of the narcissistic person is himself.
Specialist Clinical Psychologist Özgenur Taşkın, who emphasized that narcissistic personality and narcissistic tendency should not be confused, said, “Narcissistic tendency can be in anyone. Especially in childhood, the child may think that he is the center of the world and may want all the investment of love to be made in himself. Then he can learn to love the world and his surroundings and multiply the objects of love. But the love object of the narcissistic person is himself. It focuses on the 'right and now'. If the object of love is itself, it should be loved and praised. They are very closed to criticism. They cannot remove negative comments, and they can accept neutral comments as criticism. They perceive the person they are criticizing as the enemy.” said.
It is important to balance the narcissistic person.
Specialist Clinical Psychologist Özgenur Taşkın, who stated that the method of coping with the narcissistic person is not to praise him, said, “If you constantly praise the narcissist person, he will see you as if you have defeated him and you will have no value for him. It's critical to keep the balance, like the seesaw. The subject is brought up to the point where the person defrauds and praises himself. The person living with a narcissist may feel lonely and worthless, but these feelings are so intimate that it can be difficult for the person to understand. Sometimes the person says, 'Is there something wrong with me?' can think of. In communicating with the narcissist, the person may doubt himself.” used the phrases.
The narcissist wants to put pressure on the other person.
Specialist Clinical Psychologist Özgenur Taşkın said that being in a relationship with a narcissist can also be described as 'relational purgatory' and continued her words as follows:
“The situation we call relational purgatory always leaves us at arm's length with the other party. The person may seem jealous and keep you in check. It may bother you with control. The main purpose of all this is not to make you jealous. It is to keep under pressure and to make you act within the limits drawn by it. You may accuse you of manipulation and think that you are weak, sensitive or even troubled. Ask yourself 'Am I paranoid?', 'Am I depressed?' You can find many ideas such as If you realize this situation and stop giving what you want to the other party, that is, if he realizes that the power in the relationship is gone, he may threaten you with his absence.”
They make the other party feel worthless
'Even when you need to tell the narcissistic person about yourself, you find that you don't have such a chance.' Specialist Clinical Psychologist Özgenur Taşkın said, “Because an unrealistic sense of self-importance will hinder your speech. The person will always want to talk about himself. You may be seeing criticism and contempt from the other side all the time. Unfortunately these fall under the 'joke' heading. But this may not sound like a joke to you and you may even feel worthless.” used the phrases.
The relationship with the narcissistic person may not deepen
Specialist Clinical Psychologist Özgenur Taşkın, who stated that the relationship with the narcissistic person may remain with sexuality and may not deepen, said, “In other words, if the relationship is between 'me and me', you may be used only as a tool here. As a result, you are not in any of these situations. Man is always fighting with himself. You can only be the vehicle. It will be futile to try to change the person, to struggle with the person. If there is a communication between you and your partner or a member of your family, as in these articles, the person should definitely get support from a mental health professional. Otherwise, it would be impossible to establish a relationship. These substances do not allow you to diagnose a person as a 'narcissist'. The person who will diagnose the person will only be a 'Psychiatrist'.” said.