The Most Insidious Violence Is Offending a Child

There are many forms and degrees of violence. Psychological violence is one of them. Being offended by a child is one of the most insidious psychological violence. Expert Clinical Psychologist Müjde Yahşi gave important information about the subject.

When violence is mentioned, perhaps "beating" comes to mind most of the time. Attacking, hitting, pushing, kicking, biting, shaking, spanking, pinching, pulling hair, that is, all kinds of physical harm are physical violence. There is also a type of violence that targets emotions and mental health, causes behavioral and personality disorders, and often leaves a psychopathological effect on the person, which is as damaging as physical violence but not as visible as physical violence. It is also “psychological violence…” Shouting, harsh looks, harsh tone of voice, fait accompli, sanctions, insults, intimidation, humiliation, disdain, pressure, punishment, comparison, labeling, that is, all actions that leave a mark in the emotional world are also psychological violence.

And let's come to the most insidious violence… Are you also one of those who are offended at your child or spouse for some reason?

So I want you to know that resentment is a form of punishment and it targets the emotions of the interlocutor, that is, it is a silent psychological violence. In fact, maybe we want to "understand me" by getting offended, but with this method, the "ability to understand the feelings of the other person", which we call "empathy" on both sides, does not come into play. Getting offended weakens the relationship, the problem grows, the trust is shaken, it alienates the spouses from each other, causes negative feelings to accumulate. However, as the feelings are expressed, problems can be solved and the bond of love becomes stronger. The method you will apply should not be offended, on the contrary, it should be to convey your feelings by communicating.

Especially if you are offended by the child, this is much more harmful because the child is offended by the parent; They turn off their feelings, begin to show behavioral problems, accumulate a sense of anger, lose their sense of trust, sense of belonging and self-perception, become lonely, immerse themselves in the virtual world, make wrong friendships and face many more problems. on the contrary, he should communicate with his child by revealing his child's feelings, guide him, solve the problem together and set the right example. If you don't want to have a child who is offended by you and around you in every event, closes himself in communication, and seeks a solution in his marriage by being offended by his wife, "Don't be offended by your child"